Saturday, June 18, 2011

Grace is visited by Bubby - Charitable donations for dad's day insteada gift!


Back permitting, I get out in the world.

Was just online w/my friend Coach Iris, the poet, sending her the first draft of my poem Misery at the Pennypack.

She lamented that she rarely gets time to be alone. In addition to her husband, she lives w/ one of her four children and her grand-daughter Gabby.

I commiserated w/her and said I'm ALWAYS alone and love it.

I've got the front door open, five feet away from me, so feel I'm part of the neighborhood.

Called Dan and asked if I could come over.

When he doesn't answer the phone, I email him.

Sure, he said. Here are the photos of baby Grace.

When I got there, the lil bookworm had her nose in a book.

Dan asked me to watch her while he did the dishes.

At ten months, she crawls everywhere. She headed into the dining room w/me crawling behind her.

Where was she going? What did she remember as particularly fascinating? Or, was she gonna try and find her dad.

She pulled herself up on her high chair.

It rolled. A bit. Whew. I stopped her from falling. Whew. I was in charge now. A regular Alexander Haig or Joe Biden.

More than anything, she wanted to grab the straps and buckles that held her inside the chair.

She could only reach them, fondle them, but not, lordy, lordy, put them in her mouth.

Oh no! she thot. If only I could feel that metal and the textured feel of the strap in my oh-so-sensitive mouth that is busy contemplating the world.



Since she was standing, holding on, she somehow got one leg tangled in the leg of the high chair.

Oh no, thinks I. She'll never be able to figger out how to extricate herself.

When I looked again, she'd figured it out.

Hmmm, maybe she'll join the high-flying Wallendas. Trapeze artists for those of you who, unlike me, are not geriatric patients.

Carried her into the living room where she found my car keys. Yum, she said. This Cape May keychain is so smoooth. Satisfied she'd be okay for five seconds, I pulled out her toy piano and began banging away.

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These are the hands that once played Bach preludes, Beethoven sonatas, and composed many children's songs such as Hey Ho the Witch is Dead, when we lived in Shaker Heights.

One of the items on my bucket list is to take up the piano again. Better do it before August 3, Ruthie.
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As I drove home, some fantastic music came on the radio. Am I the only one, or does music make your thoughts soar and bring out the best in you?

I know what I'll get Dan for father's day.

I made an online donation to this wonderful organization that helped me many times over the years when I was short on funds.



I was in an esp'ly philanthropic mood lately and also donated to the Bread and Roses social activist Foundation and the NRDC, a gift to my brother/law Danny where Scott and I will celebrate Father's Day.

Kidney Club: Sharon Piercy, RN, another casualty of lithium

Compass mag, Fall 2001. Bottom row: Ada Moss Fleisher, Helen Kirschner, Sharon Piercy, Gandhi. We listed everyone's name on the inside cover, w/their permish of course. My ex-boyfriend a bearded Simon Baniewicz is on the top row. Harry Mitchell is another RN in the top row.

For many years, Sharon Piercy, RN, was an integral part of New Directions.

She was a perfect role model: mom, nurse, dog-lover (Shotsi was a hypomanic schnauser), and finally she moved from English Village Apartments in North Wales to her own home in Wynnewood.

She'd always owned a vacation home in the Pokies where she lives now.

As a divorced woman she showed what an intelligent, motivated woman could do to have the best life possible. Despite her bipolar disorder.

Sharon has kindly given me permission to write about her. She remains a very active 61-year-old despite her bipolar and her .... well, I'll let you read about it later.

Back in the day, Sharon and I would give educational workshops on Bipolar and Depression. I'll always remember when we spoke to the nurses at Dixon Nursing School at Abington Memorial Hospital. The story of her first psychosis was amazing!

Like me, she has Bipolar 1, the kind where you go off your rocker.

Mine, of course, went away 10 years ago.

About 6 months ago, I got on my upstairs computer. All my computers (upstairs desktop, Dell laptop, Acer laptop) have different address books.

I typed in part of her address, hoping it would show up - "pier" - and sure enough, there it was.

I wrote her that I was in end-stage renal failure due to lithium toxicity.

To my shock, she replied that she herself was "on the list." Meaning, the kidney transplant list.

Yesterday, I spoke to Denis Hazam, who runs a DBSA support group at University of Pennsylvania.

He'd had a cadaver transplant six years ago but the kidney was failing fast. Sure enuf, he's on dialysis three days a week.

It was life-saving. He had run out of energy and could barely move!

We need our kidneys.

I call Denis frequently to bolster his spirits b/c he goes to dialysis Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday. His wife Fran cooks him healthy meals. One nite while he was at dialysis, she went out for pizza. He can't eat cheese and tomatoes. Or mustard! What's that about?

So here was Sharon, far away but certainly not forgotten, with her failing kidneys. Incredible we take these drugs, we're so trusting, and then - bam! - we pay for it.

Sharon writes:

Think of you often but I'm bad at keeping in touch. How are you doing? Just read an article from the Kidney Foundation that 10 or more years of Lithium causes permanent Renal damage.

About time it was put in print.

I got a peritoneal catheter in April but still holding off dialysis.

I credit working with my horse, lots of fresh air, sun and exercise.

My daughter has lost 80 lbs and is trying to lose enough to give me one. I'm just not sure I want that. I've been on the list 2 yrs and just agreed to take a healthy one over 60 which will increase my chances.

I still work full- time. I have to until I'm on Medicare.

Sharon's palomino Penny. (I just made up that name. It came to me thru an extended session of ESP.)

So, 10 years or more on lithium and then you're, scuse me, fucked!

I wrote Sharon back about the guilt we feel toward our living donors.

They'll die on the operating table or afterward, they won't have a full life, what if they want children.

We all go thru this.

I met a man at my son Dan's wedding. Tom. He and his girlfriend live in Florida. Insulin diabetes ruined his kidneys and he's been on dialysis for 6 years.

Then his 40-y-o daughter offered him a kidney.

He was in terror! Yes, that's how we all react: gratitude and horror.

I'm gonna see him in August if I'm still alive after my spine surgery. He and his girlfriend "Kat" will be at Grace's first birthday party.

Can't wait to talk kidney talk!

Each time I take my pills - morning and nite - I check to make sure I loaded my pillbox correctly:

4 Cellcept - the big two-tones, the generic has ugly colors vs. the lovely brand names
3 Prograf (tacrolimus - I just love that name) - the smaller capsules
1 Prednisone - tiny white

Friday, June 17, 2011

Motoring around favorite haunts - Mill Road in Hatboro, PA - Village Green Apts / Poem: A House is as Beautiful as a Face

Sycamores along Armour Road, Hatboro, PA

Last nite I disciplined myself and shut off my laptop at 11 pm.

I'd finished my most recent article for Patch.com, which Gerry will probly post on Monday.

Goal was to go up to bed and READ. As in, read a book. I've gotten so addicted to online reading and esp. online watching of great videos, I crave these every nite.

You can do it, said Scott. I wanted to tell him the next morning, when I asked him to compost my shrimp fins, that I succeeded.

With no noise at all, last nite, just the sounds on the street - a few cars driving by - I adjusted my always-aching legs into one of my weird positions - and started Fordlandia, the selection for my book club. Excellent. With photos that enhance.

Oh, I'm running my Goals Group now. One of the members told me a fantastic story. "I'll put it in a poem," I said. So I did indeed do the first draft of the poem last nite.

Speaking of poems, read my friend Iris's poem here. It's one of her best.

I must confess, however, that while I lay in bed reading - and there came a delightful downpour of rain and more rain - there seemed to be an electrical connection between me and my laptop downstairs in the living room. Hard to resist, but do-able.

Next morning - today - my legs gave me a break, so I ran some errands in Hatboro.

I felt so good I decided to go for a scenic drive, one of my favorite things. I pulled out my camera just in case.

On S. Warminster Road, I saw gleaming on another street, a house of a most unusual color. I did a u-turn and snapped it.



Keep it short, Ruthie, keep it short.



Lemme visit my favorite street, I said to myself: Mill Road, with the famous Norman Fisher house. New Directions toured it several years back. Doris, the widow of Dr Norman, a family doc in Hatboro, gave us the tour of this Louis Kahn house, subject of the movie My Architect.

The backyard is marvelous, with a little bridge going over Pennypack Creek.

Having lived in Village Green Apartments across the street from Mill Road, I used to go for walks on this b'ful street.

So I just drove slowly, no one was behind me, and I gazed at all the houses, remembering, remembering.

Ah, here was the house where Marjorie lived, an older woman with white hair pulled back in a bun. She taught me about poppies! B/c of Marjorie, I have poppies growing in my front yard.



A man and his dog n cat were out front. I knew Marjorie wouldn't be alive, but who could this fellow be? Chances are he had no idea who she was.

Meet Frank "Sunny" Suntheimer (silent 'th') the son of Marjorie.

He's lived in this house all his life.

His family owned Suntheimer Bakery - 1921-1967 - at the site of what is now the ever-so depressing Red Barn Mall on York Road.

But the bakery in its heyday was quite the place to go.

I told Sunny I wrote an article about Weinrich's Bakery in Willow Grove and he told me that Weinrich worked for him.

You mean, Edward? I asked. He's about 76 now.

Yes, Edward. I'm 75, said Sunny.

I told him I'd email the link to him.

The Suntheimers hail from Austria (ah, Austrian pastries, et tu Freud? a couple shtrudel before your next neurotic patient?), just as the Weinrichs still have family in Germany.

What were your specialties? I asked Sunny.

Cakes! he said.

Cakes ordered by famous people w/ their likeness on top:

Claude Raines
Grace Kelly
President Eisenhower

Sunny, who is married to Sally, said the bakery was one of the last in the area. At one time they had 25 trucks which would go door-to-door, the way milk trucks used to do.

Have you ever heard of that? In Cleveland, where I grew up, we had a milkman and an egg-man. We had a cleaner who came 'round, and we got Sara Lee desserts cuz Betty Wolfe's brother worked for them. Our freezer was stocked with brownies, German chocolate cake, vanilla cake w/ choc frosting, and my Halloween candy, which I parceled out for several months cuz I didn't wanna get diarrhea from eating everything at once.

Confession: While doing my Hatboro errands this a.m., I passed Scoops, the ice cream store. I've gotta figure out how to work their Bassett's ice cream and fudge sauce into my diabetes-healthy diet.

Just have the ice cream for a whole meal? With some lettuce and tomatoes on the side?

This is actually what I'm eating right now, my chicken chowder. I offered to bring some over to Matt, the main character of my next Patch article but he never emailed me back that he wanted some.

Why do I have the urge to feed this man? Maybe cuz he let me hang out there for hours on end w/ my endless questions.

Matt's the owner of Authorized Camera Repair which you'll read about next Monday.

My loud radio was turned off while I drove down Mill Road. I needed to concentrate on the great beauty and individuality of each house. And the memories they invoked. I did a quick blog about Mill Road awhile back. Here's another view of the Suntheimer yard.

This house has an amazing story. When I see the photo it'll remind me of The Iris Man, The Old Doors (I bought one and had it in my living room for many a year)and the last farm standing on Dillon Road.

Wouldn't you love a front porch like this?

Lots of land at Mill Road and S Warminster. The Suntheimers, business people that they are, once owned the entire parcel of land around their house, which, when they lived there was a dirt road, said Sunny.

I only take photos from the driver's side. Hey! I can turn my car around and.....

Yes, I went back to Village Green where we used to live. As I approached the building, I could smell it. Foul! Cigarettes and cooking grease.

Welcome to Village Green. Second floor, please. Up I trudge, paying no attention to leg pain. Operation scheduled for August 3. When I have a Q, Dr Guy Lee's office calls back the same day.

What adventures we had when we lived there. We'd walk along the crick across the street with the PA Turnpike up above. No wonder I wrote an article on the turnpike. It was part of my backyard.

And the ring-ring-ring of the tires we could hear when we'd fall asleep.

Here's where Winnie Bannigan and Dawn lived.

Most of the doors were unadorned, so I picked this one. People like to distinguish themselves from other people. Look at all the car decals. This person had their TV on - in the middle of the day!

Mail call! Ruth Z Deming, 503 S Warminster Road, Apt. H-6, Hatboro PA 19040. BUT we lived in Upper Moreland Township.

Upon arriving home on Cowbell, these sparrows were pecking away at something on the concrete shelf. Praps last nite's rain deposited some tasty seeds there.
It's been awhile, my dear, but perhaps next Sunday.

A HOUSE IS EVERY BIT AS BEAUTIFUL AS GRACE'S FACE


whisper it out loud
in english
howssss
it is one of the beautiful words:
like mother or whirligig

i myself live in a house
walk barefoot on the carpet
where i count out my pills
after transplant
feel the cool of the tiles
in the kitchen

through the window
the cardinals dash from one
tree to the other -
shake the electrical wire -
peek-a-boo! i love the way you soar
and that splash of brown across your wing -
may i have the pleasure of
mounting you?

life in a house leads to wider things
wonderful things:
bakeries of slowly cooling rye with seeds
car dealerships on the Fairway with
end-of-the-week blowout sales
and the sure knowledge that
the pink geraniums someone gave me
after transplant
will last the
whole summer through.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Family Reunion - Hello Cousin Lloyd, Amy and Rich



"Family" was famously said in my family by two-year-old Jade Greene, my now 20-some niece, who will be married by her Aunt Sarah next June.

And who would ever believe that Aunt Sarah, who is my darling daughter Sarah, would cede her left kidney to me, after my diagnosis of end-stage renal disease after 16.5 yrs on the drug lithium for my bipolar disorder.

My 88-yr-old mother Bernice - her 5 kids call her "Ma" - was in ecstasy with the return of a household full of noisy animated people.

We love Cousin Lloyd Gilden who visits mom once a year. We heard the amazing story of his name and the power that the people at Ellis Island have over the immigrants.

Lloyd's grandfather came over from Russia. When asked his name, he said, "Krupkin."

Knowing he was Jewish, the man changed it to "Goldstein."

Later, Lloyd's father, Jerry Gilden, who was in the women's apparel biz like many Jews including my father, changed Goldstein to Gilden.

Lloyd drove in from Manhattan aided by his Garmin. Another amazing machine to make smart people smarter. Or dumb people smarter. I'd like to rent one from the library and see if I could figger out how to use it.

Let the wild rolling of pictures begin:

Donna lives in Hatboro. Shall I write a short sketch? Strong character, talented artist, her head is always in a Kindle, contrarian, sharp dresser, mother of two great kids.

Ah, here's Lloyd now. Like us, he grew up in Cleveland Heights, but like some of us, graduated from Shaker Heights High.

Retired Queens College psych professor. Has private practice in Manhattan where he works from 10 am until 8 pm. A Buddhist who believes in the possibility of world peace and cooperation. Prez of the Lifwynn Foundation, based on teachings of psychoanalyst Trigant Burrow (d. 1950.)

The youngest Greenwold sister - Amy - is on the left. That's Lynnie on the right.

Detail of quilt Amy made me for my 60th b'day.

Here's Daddy. He would've loved to join us except he's still mouldering in his grave. He was the most important influence in my life, a true leader of people.

Here's my brother David, the youngest of us, and the first to go. An extraordinary human being. Very talented despite his autism. An utterly gentle soul. He was the family photographer.

Dyou think God has his reasons? Or dyou think he's just a figment of our need for answers.

My sister Ellen who sells items on eBay. A great photographer, she was chosen to p'pate in one of the prestigious Bucks County Community College art shows. Her photo was delightfully bizarre.

My daughter Sarah needs no introduction. (Note that when someone writes "needs no introduction" they're too fuckin lazy to write anything more.)

Ma-MA. Born 8-8-22. Married 4-4-44.

She sits at the head of the table where my dad used to sit.

Rich Pomper, my bro/law, who's married to Amy. They live in Eugene OR in one of the most b'ful houses I've ever seen. Rich likes to crack jokes. Are they funny? One out of four.

I think I spent a total of four and a half minutes with Rich and Amy.

Nikki's son Tyler, I mean, Quinn, I mean Paddy! Ze greatest kid ever!

I guess this is what they mean by "deep dish pie." This is a strawberry-rhubarb pie w/mom's rhubarb. Rich made the all-butter crust. I had two helpings it was so delicious. So did Cousin Lloyd who took some home, along w/ mom's lemon squares.

Stretching out after din-din. Sarah and I were exhausted and were gonna leave. Then we got our second wind and left at midnite. Most of the others were up till two. Everyone slept over.

Rich wanted to take family portraits. By this point, I was so exhausted I hoped I could keep my eyes open. I had a New Directions program at the Giant Supermarket Classroom.

So we have both Paddy and Rich taking fam photos.

Amy, get your skinny butt over here!

Mom and her Five Greenwold Girls.

Patrick with his parking garage.

Paddy is making us laugh hysterically.

Where dyou suppose Paddy learning yoga? From his mama, who takes bikrun yoga, in a very hot room to loosen up the joints.

First cousins, Lloyd and Bernice.

"I learned about death from your mother," Lloyd said. She was 6 years older than him and used to babysit for him. One day he asked her, What happens when we die?

Her famous remark was, "The lights go out."

View One from the Glass Table

View Two from the Glass Table

I said to Sarah, when I saw the glass table right now, I thot of a line from my poem The Last Mania:
A dog twitching under a glass table couldn't resemble you more.


Hail the Unconscious which notices All.

The new generation arrives!

About time we included a photo of Lynn's BF Chuck Norris look-alike, Neil. And how are the girls, I asked him about his college-age twin girls.

And how's Mike, I asked, about his Cheltenham cop son.

Jason's doing well, he said.

And how many weeks pregnant is his lovely wife?

Well, she's not pregnant yet, he said.

This morning at breakfast at the always-terrible KitchenBar in Abington, my daughter/law commented about the pregnancy of Alice in California.

That's where I got the pregnancy idea.

And now, ladies n gents, if you'll excuse me, Scott is expecting me. This week's fleet of movies is:

Birth of a Nation
Bang the Drum Slowly
Mrs Harris
Milk (Harvey)
George Harrison concert for the Hungry in Bangladesh 1971